Why do we always want what we cant have? All the things they do that annoy you, hurt your feelings, make you want to kick and scream like a 2 year old. It seems so easy to just quit, hop the fence and graze on the green grass across the street. Come on people! Who told you your perfect? Who told you that you should never have to compromise to be in a healthy relationship?
How To Overcome "Grass Is Greener" Syndrome In Dating
The grass is always greener on the other side - Idioms by The Free Dictionary
The problem with this is the greener grass is usually based on fantasy and fear. The fear comes from several possibilities, including fear of being trapped in commitment, fear of boredom, fear of loss of individuality, and fear of oppression. Along with these fears comes the issue of compromise. In people who fear commitment, comprising certain desires, needs, and values for the sake of the unity can feel like oppressive sacrifice. When this happens, the perception is that there is something else out there that will allow us to have all that we crave, want, and value, and that it will happen on our terms.
The grass is always greener on the other side
Yet and still, there are plenty of people out here that still think it is regardless of the facts. They might have it really good. For a relationship or marriage to work, men and women must definitely resist a covetous soul and a wandering eye. This is not a righteous or healthy condition to have. It sets the stage for all kinds of failures.
The trouble is, it's harming real connections and leading us all to be cursed with some kind of dating ADHD. It's becoming easier for us to not attach emotionally. The more we practice this, the more alien it feels to have a true connection. When we swipe right on Tinder, get a match or make eye contact with a hottie at a bar, our neurochemical networks are triggered. The pleasure centers in our brains release dopamine, the same chemical that is released when we're using drugs or watching porn.