If He Can’t Choose Between You And Another Girl, Then Let Him Have The Other Girl | Thought Catalog
First, some history: When I was a child, watching my pops get ready to go out was something to behold. He would spend hours preparing his mask every morning for whatever crowd, person or community he faced. Even years later, my pops still took longer to get ready than my mother and sister combined, delicately taking a black Sharpie to any stray grays that might pop up in his goatee. My pops would explain that as a young man in the Dominican Republic, you had to work so hard perfecting yourself, preparing your mask, so that when a young European or American woman came through, she might choose you, as he would put it, might take you home with her, like that was your only way out.
If He Can’t Choose Between You And Another Girl, Then Let Him Have The Other Girl
Most humans aren't mean-spirited by nature, but they do so many awful things in dating such as stringing along or leading on. It's truly an art to lead someone on. You have to defy physics - keeping someone suspended in space for extended periods of time. Your behavior and statements don't allow for an understanding of what's going on between the two of you. You don't let them go to move on with their life, but you also don't let them close enough to you to feel like you're officially together.
Dating exclusively, that is. All your friends want to know where things are going with this dude — and to be honest, so do you. The answer to that is No. Deciding whether to date each other exclusively is something both you and the guy should have a hand in. In fact, he would welcome talking about it with you and might even be relieved that you were the one who brought it up first.